蘿蔔、蛋和咖啡~

並不是樹木忍受、抵抗了四季的考驗；

而是四季經過了樹木，帶出了樹木的成熟。

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一個女兒對她的父親抱怨，說她的生命是如何如何痛苦、無助，她是多麼想要健康地走下去，但是她已失去方向，整個人惶惶然然，只想放棄。她已厭煩了抗拒、掙扎，但是問題似乎一個接著一個，讓她毫無招架之力。

當廚師的父親，二話不說，拉起心愛女兒的手，走向廚房。他燒了三鍋水，當水滾了之後，他在第一個鍋子裡放進蘿蔔，第二個鍋子裡放了一顆蛋，第三個鍋子中則放進了咖啡。

狐疑的女兒望著父親，不知所以然，而父親只是溫柔地握著她的手，示意她不要說話，靜靜地看著滾燙的水，以令人熾熱的溫度燒滾著鍋裡的蘿蔔、蛋和咖啡。

一段時間過後，父親把鍋裡的蘿蔔、蛋撈起來各放進碗中，把咖啡濾過倒進杯子，問：「寶貝，你看到了什麼？」女兒說：「蘿蔔、蛋和咖啡。」

父親把女兒拉近，要女兒摸摸經過沸水燒煮的蘿蔔，蘿蔔已被煮的軟爛；他要女兒拿蛋，敲碎薄硬的蛋殼，細心觀察著這顆水煮蛋；然後，他要女兒嚐嚐咖啡，女兒笑起來，喝著咖啡，聞到濃濃的香味。女兒謙虛恭敬地問：「爸，這是什麼意思？」

父親解釋，這三樣東西面對相同的逆境，也就是滾燙的水，反應卻各不相同，原本粗硬、堅實的蘿蔔，在滾水中卻變軟了，這個蛋原本非常脆弱，它那薄硬的外殼起初保護了它液體似的內容物，但是經過滾水的沸騰之後，蛋殼內卻變硬了；而粉末似的咖啡卻非常特別，在滾燙的熱水中，它竟然改變了水。

「妳呢？我的女兒，妳是什麼？」

父親慈愛地摸著雖已長大成人，卻一時失去勇氣女兒的頭說：


「當逆境來到妳的門前，妳作何反應呢？

妳是看似堅強的蘿蔔，但痛苦與逆境到來時卻變得軟弱，失去力量嗎？

或者妳原本是一顆蛋，有著柔順易變的心？

但是卻在經歷死亡、分離、困境之後，變得僵硬頑強？

或者，妳就像是咖啡？咖啡將那帶來痛苦的沸水改變了，

當它的溫度高升到一百多度時，水變成了美味的咖啡，


如果妳像咖啡，當逆境到來，一切不如意時，妳就會變得更好，而且將外在的一切轉變的更加令人歡喜，懂嗎？我的寶貝女兒？妳要讓逆境摧折妳，還是妳來轉變，讓身邊的一切人事物感覺更美好、更良善？」

CNY2010

although there are 15 days for CNY

but to me, CNY is already come to the end when i went back to UNITEN..

this year CNY is not the same as previous years..

no open house and yet angpau also lesser..

actually during CNY, i will be busy follow my parents go to his friends' open house..

almost every night at least 1 friend..

sometimes even need to rush for 3 houses in 1 night..

adult will gamble, drink alcohol (but not for my parents), chit chat there..

while the children will just sit aside or play with other children..

for my age,

no more playing around..

so i will only sit in front of the tv with my younger sis..

watch some show to pass our time..

when im getting older,

i dun feel like follow my parents go anymore..

i feel its kind of boring..

so i rather stay at home..

or i just go there for a while to show my face to them and drive back after that..
it makes me get less angpau too..

but the amount of angpau to me is no longer an important issue..

still rmb last time,

every year we will compare the angpau money that we get among siblings..

and now i quit from the 'competition' d..

this year angpau money is the least after so many years..

this year CNY,

my mum's side relative organized a steamboat party..

the organizer paid the expenses but me and my cousin need to go and get all the stuff..

i never been to PASAR for many many years d..

and this CNY i went there early in the morning..

not bad..

at least there was 1 day i woke up early.. haha..

the steamboat session started at 6pm and ended at 1am..

more than 40 ppl gathered at my uncle's house but still the food cannot finish..

in the meantime, there were few gamble activities going on..

sambil gamble, sambil makan..

it was fun.. haha..

preparing the stuff ald make us busy for half day,

and yet cleaning was the most headache part..

but luckily there were helpers standby.. thank god..

at 1st, my aunt wanna treat us a dinner in a restaurant..

but still i guess this kind of party gave us more fun..

other than family gathering,

CNY also a time for a bunch of friend to gather up..

and this year,

i went for a so called my form 3 class gathering..

but when i reached there..

there was only 1 my f3 classmate..

others was from other class..

feel like being tipu by my friend d..

but nvm,

i had fun with them too..

after left school,

i never got the chance to meet all of them..

annual netball gathering,

cant make it for the dinner

but went there for a short photo session..

keep in track with some of my seniors..

and yet im not surprise that netball players can be so noisy and crazy.. haha..

last but not least,

a friend's open house that i actually only know few people there..

but as usual crapping can just make the time passed faster..

manage to meet a few friends there..

and photo session is a MUST.. haha..

teenagers nowadays..

before CNY knock at my door,
AI test 1 will be knocking at my door tomorrow.
so today i went to KFC serdang to study while jason was waiting for his night classes..
when we were studying without any noise,
suddenly a bunch of teenagers came in..
half of them was wearing school uniform while the other half were not..

i guess the average age for them will be around 15 years old..

but some of them looks like form 1 or form 2 to me..

there was a guy among the gang had attracted my attention..
his hair is in purple color..

wonder how he can enter the school with this hair..

they first went in the mini playground at the corner..

everyone should know that,

the playground is for kids below 12 years old..

but they sat down and chit chat there..

(guess thats the reason the public playground can be spoil easily..)

a male kfc worker went in and asked them to come out..

he stared at the purple hair guy cause he moved 1 of the ceiling wood until out of position..

after the KFC worker went off,

the purple hair guy straight make a call..

'wei, free ah?? wanna beat people anot?? come KFC serdang..'

i heard this sentence and i was like..

what the.. just a stare and need to beat ppl..

i know he beh soong..

but how he react scared me..

a young teenager can give such a react when ppl just give a simple stare..

and yet they did wrong in the 1st place..

after that, the way they talk to each other was 'outstanding'..

the way they describe everything will add with some fault words..

even me cant come out all that but it seems this is their way to communicate..

even for girls that just look like 14 years old to me..

a bunch of teenagers is just like a gang of gangster to me..

the world is really changing..

you need to respect people that older than you,

but you also need to be very careful with the teenagers nowadays..

if not,

u might just beat by unknown ppl out of sudden..

but in the end,

i guess the 'brother' was not free..

so the KFC worker should be safe..

可不可以有一个人

可不可以有一个人。 可以看穿我的逞强。 可以保护我的脆弱。 不要在我说「没事啦，你去吧」的时候 就真的会放心的放开我的手然后留我一个人。 不要在我笑笑的不说话的时候 就真的会以为我心里没有觉得疼痛和难过。 不要在我若无其事的忙碌着手头的事的时候 就真的会以为我什么影响都没有受到。 我希望他会在我的眼泪掉下以前 就用大大的手掌捂住我的眼睛。 然后轻声说我的眼睛只有微笑的时候才是最好看。 我希望他会在我面无表情的时候轻轻的用力的搂紧我。 然后说你在我的面前永远都不需要伪装坚强。 我希望他会在我受到委屈的时候把我的脑袋按在他的肩膀上。 然后抚着我的头发说没关系就算所有的人都不相信你你都还有我。 咱要嫁的那个人 不一定要是高高瘦瘦的 但是一定要干干净净 咱要嫁的那个人 不一定要会甜言蜜语 但是一定要有好的脾气 咱要嫁的那个人 不一定要帅气又多金 但是一定要有聪明的头脑和上进心 咱要嫁的那个人 一定会从我们牵手那刻起 对我说 从今天起 我们有福同享 有难我当 咱要嫁的那个人 一定要霸道些 他会对我说 我认定你了 就赖你了 你就是我一个人的 我不许别人走近你 咱要嫁的那个人 一定会支持我减肥 却依然带我去超市给我买很多好吃的 然后说 吃吧 不管你多胖我都要你 咱要嫁的那个人 一定会在过马路的时候牵着我的手 对我说 要跟我走 咱要嫁的那个人 一定会明白老婆是用来疼的 而且会吹着快乐的口哨和我一起做家务 咱要嫁的那个人 一定会在我生气的时候耐心的哄着 然后逗我说 你生气的样子 好丑 咱要嫁的那个人 一定会在我哭的时候为我擦眼泪 然后告诉我 乖 不哭 有我在呢 咱要嫁的那个人 一定会在我累的时候 伸出手臂 很心疼的说 抱抱 咱要嫁的那个人 一定会在睡觉前跟我说 你要早点睡觉 晚安 咱要嫁的那个人 一定会把我带回家 对他妈说 看 这是我给你找的儿媳妇 然后对我说 这是咱妈 咱要嫁的那个人 一定会在某一个阳光明媚的日子 顶着一片湛蓝的天 笑着对我说 我们该有个家了……

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一个我突然想起的故事

还记得,
以前我的家有很多蚊子，
把我叮得痒痒的。。
我总爱向妈妈投诉，
“很痒啊! 很痒啊!”
有一次,
当我在投诉的当儿,
妈妈很大力地向我的身体打下来,
我顿时傻眼了,
之后就哭出来了,
因为真的很痛。。
然后哭着问妈妈为什么要打我??
妈妈回答,
因为有蚊子啊。。
我那时当然除了痛,
什么也感觉不到了。。
现在回想,
我得到一个启示,
当我尝过什么是痛时,
我就会觉得痒其实是没什么的。。
只要我们经历过一些事情,
我们才能真正体会到那种感觉。。
也正是因为我体会过,
所以我才会珍惜我的所有,
才会知道其实我真的很幸福的。。
朋友,
痛你都尝过了,
痒还算的了什么??

dislocated again..

31st of March is my dad's bday..

n yes, 2day is not 31st of march..

n im not here to wish my dad happy bday..

but on 31-03-05,

which we planned to celebrate my dad's bday by an outing at night..

but before the night came,

i dislocated my shoulder during a netball training..

the pain tat i suffered that day is still clear in my mind..

my face turned pale n my right hand kept shaking..

tears cant stopped falling from my face..

the level of pain that i suffered that moment managed to make me almost fainted..

in the end,

i celebrated my dad's bday in the hosp..

the next day was april fool..

i told my friends that i was in hosp,

but no one believe me..

they tot it was a trick on april fool..

i guess these were all because of my daily behavior..

it almost 5 years d..

but my hand act haven fully recover..

i think is due to didn't rest properly in the early stage..

n now, my right shoulder is very easy to sprain or dislocated it..

i guess,

yday was the 3rd time i dislocated my shoulder again..

the pain that i suffered cant compare to the 1st time dislocation..

but the pain managed to make my tears non stop falling..

mayb due to 3 times experiences,

i can relocate my shoulder back to its own joint..

i wont let myself go to the hosp just to relocate it back..

bcoz the doc will eventually pull my arm n let the shoulder go bek the right place..

and thats VERY VERY VERY VERY VERY PAIN.. (hope it no more fuzzy here.. hehe.. )

i rather suffer the pain a while n let it move bek in my way..

now,

internal pain still there..

cant lift my hand till 180 degree yet..

but normal movement is not a problem for me..

but i guess need to rest my shoulder for another 2 weeks..

no sports for this 2 weeks,

but gym shud b ok for me..

*sorry to yee siong n wee ser.. coz we have to walk over for the badminton match..*